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<\/div>2. Playing the victim card<\/h2>\n
Remember, you are a leader, not a victim! So often, people choose to victimize themselves with a \u201cpoor me\u201d attitude. Sometimes, unpleasant or scary things happen- especially in business when you\u2019re just starting out. But the best leaders are able to pick themselves up after those moments, hold their heads up high, and create a plan on how to change a bad situation. They do not allow themselves to stay stagnant by treating themselves as victims. They advocate for themselves to survive the tough points and persevere.<\/p>\n
3. Lacking empathy<\/h2>\n
A 2002 study<\/a> explored whether good leaders must have empathy<\/a>. Their findings were very surprising at the time, as they discovered that people rated effective leaders more on their emotional skills rather than their technical ones:<\/p>\n When we perceive someone as a leader, it is often because we are impressed with his\/her mental abilities and his\/her ability to perform complex tasks. Yet, there is a small but growing body of conceptual work suggesting that our perception of someone as a leader is affected by his\/her emotional abilities as well.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n We base our perception more on emotion because when a leader has empathy, we feel that they will be able to understand and listen to us better. On the other hand, when a leader lacks empathy, conflicts arise and employees feel as though they are not being heard. Communication becomes irregular and full of distrust, meaning things that should be addressed are probably being ignored.<\/p>\n Good leaders wait to react; when they do, they react calmly. This goes with the ideas of being empathetic and not taking things personally. When people react too quickly and too dramatically, arguments ensue and nothing gets done. We\u2019ve all been there – a meeting where it\u2019s either awkward because of tension and fear of a boss\u2019s reaction, or a meeting that becomes explosive and unproductive. Leaders think carefully before they reply, they ponder the pros and cons, think about emotions, data, and other details carefully before they do anything drastic.<\/p>\n Although we focused on toxic behaviors in the workplace, these toxic behaviors easily translate to life outside of the workplace. In every situation, the solution is to take a step back and self-evaluate, which slows reaction time. With slowed reaction time, there is now more time to reflect and decide how to act with a more cooperative behavior and be a leader of a team instead of a boss of some random people. While it\u2019s still extremely important to manage<\/a>, it\u2019s even more important to lead<\/a>, inspire, and evolve.<\/p>\n Image credit: John Lester<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n4. Rapidly excessive reactivity<\/h2>\n
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